Maybe I have been reviewing too many books that have relationships instead of swords, sorcery, lasers and space shuttles. I was talking to a friend recently who was bemoaning her social life. She is an attractive, intelligent, divorced mother of three. She is a registered nurse; she does volunteer work and wants to find somebody to love. She has concluded that our community is overrun with swine of many stripes. Her biggest outrage are the married swine who assume she is ripe for the picking. Trust me, she may be ripe but the picking will be done by her. From my perspective, some of the reasons she is still alone is she is not compliant, easy, stupid or needy. There are a lot of guys out there who are afraid of strong, self confident women. They want to be doted on rather than have a mutually satisfactory relationship.
Looking outside of our community has been tiresome. Taking a run to New York or Philadelphia is both time consuming and expensive it you are planning on looking for a mate. Plus, she has found the bar scene is hardly conducive to meeting someone looking for a commitment. She has talked about trying one of the online dating services but doesn’t know which one. The number of services and their claims are overwhelming.
There is hope for her and others. There is a site called Prime Dating Sites that has evaluated and reviewed a wealth of choice for the lovelorn. I checked out Friend Finder, Chemistry.com and eHarmony. There was a good review of each site and links to ten different matchmaking sites. Frankly I was surprised I hadn’t heard of a couple of them. I use Yahoo all the time and didn’t have any idea they had a matchmaking site called Yahoo Personals. I guess being happily married I haven’t paid a lot of attention to these kinds of sites. The TV ads that promote many of the sites are slick and well done but don’t tell you much. Prime Dating Sites, at least gives you some points to ponder and may help you narrow your search to a service that makes sense for you.
Being lonely truly hurts; frankly I can’t imagine life without my mate. There are a huge number of lonely people out there trying to find someone. Maybe these sites might help. If you have had experience with them, please comment on this blog. You too, might help someone find the person they can love.